REVEALED: Covers lifted on sex for seniors over 70
CANDID conversations on sex for seniors over 70 makes for enlightening and, at times, evocative reading as the social norms of the past continue to challenge seniors in their ageing years.
Doreen Wendt-Weir's book, Sex in your Seventies, is an interesting journey through 33 stories about sex for the older generation.
The stories, drawn from the "100s of interviews" conducted by Doreen, are full of life lessons.
"I thought I might have to advertise, but I didn't because it was one person referred to another and then another and so it went on," Doreen said.
The youngest interviewed, when the book was written 10 years ago, was 69 and the oldest was 90.
"They were all intelligent, interesting types; married, divorced, with a love life, without a love life, from all walks of life," she added.
Doreen believes even now that anyone over 50 should read the book so that they may "learn what to expect in their twilight years".
Perhaps she's right for some people, but the lessons shared in each story are from men and women who grew up in a different era to those who are now entering their 50s and 60s.
Relationships have changed significantly since the war years with the concepts of obedience, acceptance and tolerance in a marriage challenged and changed in many partnerships.
However, the book remains interesting reading as it provides an insight to the complexity of relationships and their influences of that earlier era.
Some of the stories may evoke strong responses from some readers, but I would agree with Doreen when she says they are, "not smut".
The stories are shared anonymously with Doreen using her nome deplume, Evangline, to help ease the interviewee into sharing their love thoughts.
"They would tell Evangeline things that they wouldn't dream of telling Doreen," she said.
As Doreen developed her narratives, the following life lessons stood out the most for her:
- Don't divorce in haste; give it a good shot.
- Shed your baggage, if you possibly can.
- Be careful when you are doing a second marriage, particularly avoiding a great age difference, although she thinks it can work.
- Even though women worry about the flab, most men really just want affection.
- Be honest.
- There isn't a need to be number one.
- Feeling valued is important for good sex.
- Don't make sex a duty; make it a pleasure.
- Don't hate sex; learn to love it.
Since the book's publication Doreen has received extensive feedback.
"I could write another book," she said.
"It's quite possible I could bring out another book called, More Sex in the Seventies," the sprightly 88-year-old author added.
Copies of the book are still available at http://www.sexinyourseventies.com.