Cautious approach to online dating leads to love
ZOE* decided to dip her toe into the ocean of online love, but just for one month and with the proviso she could check background details on anyone she found interesting.
"Because it was personal recommendation I used Mature Free and Single, which is the site my girlfriend used and met a really nice man through," Zoe, 62, said.
Zoe's friend showed her how to register and what to put on her profile.
"It was hard to put my profile up as it's hard to say great things about yourself and say what people will be interested in.
"You don't really think you are exciting," she said.
Zoe used a recent photo that she wasn't happy about, but then argued, it didn't really matter to her as she didn't take good photos anyway.
Scanning through the online profiles, Zoe looked at the photos to see something of the character of the man.
"I was looking for an ordinary, friendly looking person, not one standing by a Jaguar trying to look good," she said.
Once Zoe found someone who interested her, she researched them, looking for details through Google and on Facebook, to see if they had mutual friends or they had a history she didn't want to know more about.
"Even before I met them for coffee, I got to know something more about them," Zoe said.
She ended up going out with four men, all very different characters, before she met John*.
The two hit it off straight away and have been together for almost a year.
After 20 years of marriage and then a 12-year relationship, Zoe was not particularly worried about meeting a new partner, "so I am really surprised that I am so happy with John," she said.
Zoe said the only downside of her experience was stopping the monthly website use charge.
She finally got her debits stopped, but her girlfriend ended up closing the her bank account that was linked to the debit, just to stop it from continuing.
(* Names have been changed)