Carpe Diem: Learn to live alone but not lonely
JANE Mathews gives us an entertaining guide to learning to live alone, successfully, while not feeling alone.
Inspirational quotes, simple checklists, solid words of wisdom from experience and practical 'take away' tips, all laid out cleanly and clearly in her recently published book, The Art of Living Alone and Loving It.
"During the course of researching the book I spoke to a lot of older people and I think it would resonate," Jane said. "The point is to be proactive. Happiness is in your own hands and a lot of it comes down to doing things; not talking about it, not worrying about, but getting out there and doing something."
And, that is what Jane, 57, has done. She has taken on the issues of mental wellbeing, relationships, health, finances, your home, your social life and even your cooking for one - broken them down and built them back into positives for singletons.
"I didn't expect to be alone and I thought it would be lot easier than it was," Jane said. "That's why I wrote the book as I wanted to find a book that would help me navigate its more treacherous shallows, but I couldn't find one. It's certainly not a book about loneliness. It's a book about how to make the most of it and be positive about it."
The book works for women and for men. "There is a lot that is applicable to both like cooking for one and how to make your home your own, and how to organise your finances," Jane said.
One for the men - Jane notes, "Most people lie about what they eat alone". Does that sound familiar? I also thought her women's observation of "tops with buttons up the back are Satan's triumph" is on the mark.
In Chapter 10 Jane brings it all together with a list of enthusiastic recommendations for taking action to enjoy and thrive living alone.
Published by Murdoch Books, Jane Mathews' The Art of Living Alone and Loving It is available in bookshops, online and in audio now. RRP $29.99.