Breaking down the fear surrounding online dating
ARE you alone and dreaming of finding the perfect partner?
The quickest way forward is to find an online dating site and go through the seemingly daunting process of putting yourself out there.
To smooth your way into finding a new friend, eHarmony's managing director Nicole McInnes offers a few valuable tips to make the process more enjoyable.
WRITING YOUR PROFILE
1. When writing personal details like your age, job description or type of commitment you are after it is important not to lie - you'll be found out soon enough.
2. Never list very personal details about yourself. Once you've met and gone on a couple of dates and become more comfortable with each other, then that is a better time to divulge in the more serious stuff.
3. Be descriptive to let your personality shine through, but don't ramble on in your descriptions - be concise, clear and watch your typos and grammatical errors.
4. Don't be too vague or use too many clichéd phrases. Most people like "having fun", so fill out your profile in a way that reflects yourself as an individual.
5. You should always try and answer all questions in your dating profile, not leaving anything blank. If left blank, this will give an impression that you aren't invested into getting to know someone or their interests.
Ms McInnes adds: "According to our research, fluid conversation (72%), a shared sense of humour (68%) and feeling at ease with one another (67%) are the top three ingredients that create the spark" which eHarmony takes into consideration when matching users.
WHAT ABOUT MY PHOTO?
1. Choose a photo that is relatively recent and not one that is 10-years-old.
2. Try and avoid having a cluttered background.
3. Avoid using a selfie as it may give the impression that you are not social.
4. Try and upload a variety of photos of yourself that include a variety of head and full body shots.
5. Avoid wearing sunglasses.
6. Don't be afraid to ask for your friends for their opinion - most people are critical of themselves in photos.
ACTAULLY, YOU AREN'T ALONE
As seniors get more confident about using the internet they are also joining the online dating ranks, taking control of their love lives.
"Our research from last year shows that singles over 50 find it harder to find new romantic interests through friends, with only 18% meeting people in this way," Ms McInnes said.
"According to our study, 48% of singles over 50 want someone to enjoy and share life with and are tired of being single.
"Online dating gives them the opportunity to connect and interact with a variety of people without having to travel or find new hobbies to meet new people.
"In the last five years singles over 45 years of age have gone from being under 20% of our [eHarmony's] users to nearly a third," she added.
Good luck in your search for love.